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The Pirate Ship / ARR! / Re: More Smutty Than You: TSR's Hall of Shame
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on: 2009 April 01, 18:01:55
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Umm... I never said anyone who's kid was victimized should have just tried harder. But it is my experience that the adults I know and work with do know more about what to watch for when a child is in a bad place. Those two statements are not related. I'm very sorry for what your friends have gone through, it's a terrible thing. And unless a parent is the perp, I wouldn't ever blame the parents. But there is more information now, and more parents are - still imho - better informed. This is hardly ever going to mean ALL parents have the information they need. I thought I was pretty clear that I was talking about recognizing when a child's already possibly been abused in my statement. I mean, clearly there's no magical cloak of protection, but there is more help (even if it's sadly after the fact), and more useful information than there was, and every step forward is crucial. I'm unsure of why that idea should piss anyone off, and I really don't enjoy having what I actually said completely misrepresented. If you said it wasn't working that way where you are, I'd buy that. Different areas have differing levels of support for the kids and for their parents. But it's pretty rotten to take something I said, try to make it something else entirely, and then go off at me about it. Nowhere did I ever say all parents, all adults, and all children were now savvier, or that being savvier would protect all children in advance.
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The Pirate Ship / ARR! / Re: More Smutty Than You: TSR's Hall of Shame
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on: 2009 April 01, 05:19:56
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Also people are become (imho) much more aware of what a child who's been molested might look/behave like - there are some pretty significant warning signs that something is really wrong. Parents are better educated, and one can only assume teachers and social workers... er teachers are better informed. This leads to more kids in a bad place being reached out to by adults who can help them. Pedos have been identifying victimized kids forever (many prefer already victimized kids - the kids are trained, so to speak), so it's a big deal that finally more and more normal and helpful adults are able to recognize a kid in trouble.
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The Pirate Ship / ARR! / Re: More Smutty Than You: TSR's Hall of Shame
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on: 2009 April 01, 03:31:57
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We always got the not taking candy from strangers thing and that strangers are secret monsters somehow etc - if only I'd been protected from family I wouldn't be the nutjob I am now. LOL. Well, maybe I would have. My kids are trained in how to protect themselves from that very rare stranger who is dangerous, and they're kept the hell away from my family of origin, but it's useless to use the whole boogeyman of pedophiles hovering everywhere, it does weird things to kids' heads to leave them terrified of the world. On another site where I journal, I post pics of my kids occasionally, and invariably someone will come out of the woodwork to tell me pedophiles are tracking me right now by that picture and will descend shortly to kidnap, rape and eat my children and I clearly want that to happen. I wish I were indulging in hyperbole instead of just a mild exaggeration. And as I keep reminding them, these sekrit internet pedos don't have my children's names or address, their schedule, or anything really identifiable, and frankly some weirdo wanking it to a pic of the kids sitting in their kiddie pool having fun isn't actually harming my kids at all. (I mean, gross, srsly, but the kids will never know, and hey, I know my family, and the possibility someone's shared a pic of my kids with the fucknard pedos there and one of them wanked it to a pic of my kids is far more likely, really.) People are far better off teaching their children how to protect themselves and how to love themselves and who to turn to in a bad situation, how to talk to people who are mistreating them, etc (knowing to say "Don't touch me like that" and "I am telling *trusted grownup*") - and best of all, teaching a child he or she has every right not to be touched when they don't feel like it - than frightening them and thinking that'll keep them safe.
But this is a pet peeve of mine. Parents who say "Strangers are bad people who touch you against your will, now go kiss your Aunt Edna or I will spank you." That sort of thing.
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The Pirate Ship / ARR! / Re: More Smutty Than You: TSR's Hall of Shame
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on: 2009 April 01, 02:41:45
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I have to say it always really disturbs me when someone sees what is clearly a young child (and Sims 2 kids are clearly more like 6 than 11) and the first thing they think of is pedophilia. I never wore undershirts as a kid, and don't know anyone who did. It was always just panties, and then bras and panties when bras became necessary. My seven year old is a little nudie-butt, as we call her, and while she grudgingly concedes to the "butt must be covered outside of the bedroom" rule, she's just comfortable and happy dressed in as little as possible - and she's completely innocent. There's nothing sexual about a little kid in underpants, unless some adult with a wonky thought process puts it there. Admittedly I guard that innocence fiercely because she is too small/too inexperienced at life/too much a little kid to do so, and I carefully control the adults allowed around her, and she's not allowed to be nudie-butt around non-family. But that's not because of her, or because of the adults around her, it's because there do exist people who think innocent, unashamed children that are not covered from head to toe do it to titillate adults or something. The Hello Kitty underpants are not in the least perverted, they're normal. I've made all sorts of topless undies for the Sim girls, including MLP ones, because the undershirts look so uncomfy for me. I'd have hated them, my daughter would fight them kicking and screaming, and I don't feel inclined to subject even pretend people to them just because someone else thinks naked=sexual.
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