I don't really see it as a problem if someone disappears, but if it's accessible and it's free, why?
I do understand where you're coming from and wanting to make things easy for your downloaders... but I -am- kind of upset by this. It's your site - why NOT pick and choose based on whether the mesh is going to be accessible? If it goes down or whatever, fine, but.... err..... why post meshes that are freely and easily available, when it is not necessary and will only serve to upset the creators? I do understand a mesh in a haystack things, and sites going down, and I hate pay sites as much as the rest of ya'll, but this just doesn't make sense to me. It's just not necessary, and the only real justification I can see behind it is enabling laziness.
Like I said, I ain't gonna take my ball and go home, and I try not to let stupid shit like this get to me, but I find myself continually disappointed in this community... and I find myself wondering why I spend my time creating for it more and more. If even creators I held in high esteem will simply ignore the (what I thought were quite open) policies on something freely given, what's the point, exactly, in sharing my work with the community?
Actually, I think that liegen has done it the right way. I personally think it would have caused more angst and more shit fights if she made an exception for a few creators, rather than treating them in a blanket manner. Otherwise, then she'd have to put a list saying "The following people are obviously or possibly unstable or mean, and therefore, I will be violating only their TOS, whereas, I have permission from this list of stable, kind people".
Singling people out will make them feel like they are even more alienated. And indeed, there are links back to the original content. If I find a nice recolour, etc. then I usually check back with the original creator, see what other shinies they have. I would then get the information and see all the stuff you want me to see.
As for your personal issues with this, HP - come on - almost everybody who has downloaded knows your stuff. I personally have everything of yours on MTS2 already (excluding your wall and floor set), and I believe I have thanked you for every single item since I got broadband. I don't think that this is an issue, and if I downloaded from liegen and installed, it would merely ask me if I wanted to overwrite the previous file.
As for the laziness of downloaders - it's not really laziness that is the issue. At times, I don't have the time to go and do the mesh hunt, and there are some things I haven't downloaded because I couldn't find the mesh (some people put a link to their front page, and sometimes I find something long after it's front page news). There's also bandwidth issues, or the 503 timeouts that one gets with MTS2 - if I didn't have broadband, I would be pulling my hair out about those.
Sometimes a site is not available - but I am not available at all times to go and check where it is. Or, it may not be available for a couple of days, and I don't even see the content because I've forgot.