I know that this has moved on. However, I had to work today, and it irritates me to come home and find that I've been talked about, and basically analyzed, but now am expected to just let it go, because mustluvcatz has said "Well, I'm done." So, forgive me, if I expect the same right to have my final say on the subject as well.
Now, I am done with this. How this went from me saying something about it might be hard for her to get a real job to people accusing me of making assumptions, I don't know. I know, I know....my posts were tldr. I'm usually pretty quiet and only really speak up when I feel strongly about something. Considering the fact that I have a mentally disabled child, have worked with mentally and physically disabled people and happen to have a problem or 2 myself- I feel strongly about certain things...like people seeming to think it's really "just that easy" for a person with any kind of disability to do what others take for granted.
You said that my remarking that she could get a job was "harsh." Maybe I'm "reading too much into this" as you have constantly accused me of, but the dictionary defines harsh as:
1. ungentle and unpleasant in action or effect: harsh treatment; harsh manners.
I'm not seeing how saying that if she needs the monies from TSR that she should get a job instead is "harsh" Harsh would be, "Hah hah, she's blind! I hope she was supporting herself on TSR and now she's out on the streets!" That would be harsh.
Edited because I forgot: The last part about forgiveness? No, Raveena hasn't asked for forgiveness, nor do I expect that she will. That statement had to do with me being able to forgive others without them asking for forgiveness.
Forgiveness has nothing to do with this at all. Raveena doesn't owe me anything at all, and I don't have to "forgive" her because she hasn't done anything to me, personally, that I consider an offense so grieveous that forgiveness is necessary. My dealings with her were gratefully, quite limited. And yes, she was bitchy, but I never took it personally. As far as I saw, she was bitchy to everyone, so I figured that was her problem, not mine. Had she in some way, singled me out from the herd and treated me in a bitchy way while she treated others nicer, that would be a different story. In that case, I would have examined myself to see what it was about me that brought out this nasty behavior.
As far as pointing out how bitchy she was, I still stick to it. The implication was that because she has vision problems, that somehow made her special or above criticism doesn't fly in my book. I don't care if she's blind, deaf, and an amputee, that doesn't turn snide, nasty behavior into something acceptable. It also makes it hard to feel sorry for her, because she got treated harshly by Thomas. It isn't like she's never been mean to anyone, so doesn't have a concept of what meanness is. She knows what it's like to be a mean person, now she knows what it's like to have someone be mean to her. She's got two choices, she can now realize that having someone be mean to you can be hurtful and in the future try to change her ways, or she can feel sorry for herself and feel that she's somehow special and should be allowed to be mean, but never have to experience meanness herself.
Again, the whole tragedy of the situation is that she is no longer getting paid by TSR. That's the only thing we know for sure. As far as that situation goes, I don't feel sorry for her at all. Anything else is still up for grabs. If I were to find out her cat died, I'd feel bad for her that she lost her cat. If I found out she or her S/O (if she has one) lost their job and thus are in financial straight? I'd feel sorry for her because of that. If I find out that her vision is progressively getting worse and soon she'll be so blind she can't use a computer? I'd feel bad about that. But no, I am NOT going to feel sorry for her because she's not getting paid by TSR. If you want to think that makes me harsh, then so be it.
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